@shirleynavarro5053
I’m 22 and I’m an engineer in a multinational corporation, living alone away from home as an independent person, speak 3 languages and graduated... but i feel like a failure every single day, terrified that I’ll get fired over any mistake i could get to make, but at the same time just wishing that it happens already.
@CristanMeijer
I think an effective way to combat this is to applaud effort, not the end result. e.g. if you say someone is very smart, they'll might think it's undeserving and they might not want to do anything more difficult to avoid people noticing they're actually not that smart. However, if you applaud their effort, they shouldn't be afraid to do something which might fail because it's the effort that counts.
@domm1341
Great talk. For me, I've come to the conclusion that success is peace of mind.
@d48731
This is the purest comment section on YouTube. Keep up the great work, friends.
@SavolX
Hm, that's kind of interesting from my Russian perspective. I always loved Americans for their openness and ability to speak about their failures\negative habits\conditions easily, don't get caught in this stuff. And this is liberating. While I always seen this as some sort of habit in Russian people — to be afraid to show weakness, and hide negative stuff about yourself. But what I learned from this talk that we essentially are absolutely the same and have the same inner daemons to fight.
@nocultist7050
Unfinished masterpieces are the worst thing that follows me every day...
@affiliatemarketingtraining
"Take imperfect action. Just get it out there!"
@edsheeranandcoffee
I just learned about the imposter syndrome tonight. It describes me perfectly. I always thought it was just me who thinks this way about myself, but now I know it's many others too. Time to try to trust myself more and give myself more credit for my accomplishments and allow myself to go after my dream
@dankelly
"Live, fail, love, and ask for help." ❤
@naturenerd619
Lou, you have just summed up what I have been living with since I was a young teenager. I now understand much more clearly where so many of my hardships have been coming from. I just recently realized that my all-consuming fear of failure and the need to be perfect in everything that I do is what has caused so much crippling anxiety and self doubt....you summed it up beautifully. I am now on the path to breaking down my own feelings of being an imposter career-wise, i.e., doing a PhD and becoming a scientist.....a field that I have never naturally been good at, so in my mind I had failed at it before I even started. There is a good likelihood that I would not be perfect at it, which makes me so reluctant, but I know now that this is a flawed way of thinking and that I could make amazing contributions to science if I just tried. Thanks for reminding me to be human; my inner radical hero wants to hug you!
@standardshift1
I'm kind of overwhelmed with how much your talk is explaining about my life, how I've made choices, and how my anxieties manifest themselves. Thank you Lou.
@rcnal22
As a leader I’m the first to praise and give all the credit. As an individual I’m constantly putting myself down saying I didn’t earn it.
@meaghenstandlee6644
Anxiety ✔️ Perfectionist ✔️ Self doubt ✔️ Fear of failure ✔️ Thank you for posting this video!! I feel this way at my work been here 8 months and feel like I don't belong everyday 😩
@lovingme6896
Sitting here at 4am in tears because i started a new career and this explains me. Idk what to do... just watching this thinking I should quit.
@Cappellano
My siblings and I are high achievers. My brother and sister are CEOs of their respective companies, and I am completing my doctorate and just landed my dream job, but we all struggle with imposter syndrome. This talk was so helpful and I now understand that the issue is not me, but the way we were raised.
@kswz7991
I really feel ashamed to even come up with this here, but that’s exactly one of my problems besides experiencing said syndrome: contrary to what this amazing spokeswoman indicated, i do not have had a bad childhood or upbringing! I experienced a loving childhood in an intact family and was and am always so grateful to my parents for that as I always knew that’s not a given and rare - but that’s also the reason why I always felt pressure to be the best since there is absolutely NO reason for me to not be the best! Unfortunately I was never the best, more like „average“ (in school etc) and now I even started to struggle in university and the pressure is even stronger. My parents are supportive though I just feel so immensely guilty towards them for not being the greatest daughter. Though I know I did „achieved“ some little things, I could name only just three things and all of them just happened cause I got lucky, which makes me even more sad for my parents. They did everything right yet they are troubled with a kid that’s not accomplishing anything and feeling stupidly sad, while it literally has NOTHING to worry (sure, I do, but honestly those are such small “problems” I even feel ashamed calling them “problems”). I don’t get it and I feel alone. Is there anybody else who is “struggling” (not really) like me? And please dont hate..
@Passiyona
I was a total imposter when I fell in love with a Narcissist... And that was the most damaging combination ever, but I am thankful for the lessons I've learned.
@welder1357
Wearing a challenge bracelet today. It is in remembrance of a fallen firefighter Captain who lost his battle against PTSD after struggling to be a good husband a good father and a good firefighter. Of all these he was excellent yet was unable to see his success. And on a day that he was severely triggered and had given into drinking he accidentally knocked his toddler over. The constant pain and years of fighting PTSD ended that night. He ended his pain, and took part of our heart with him. Many of us would lay down our very life just get someone to believe that we are real and sincere. "TO US AND THOSE LIKE US... DEATH IS CERTAIN" RIP 303
@rooyoo0623
The original definition of the word 'perfect' is to be whole, not to be without flaws. Her speech reminded me of this. 17:19
@1theonlychampion