@SarahMarie-j2n
Never realized my entire freaking life could be condensed into such a short video 🤣 both relatable & depressing
@Marekcatholic
What connected with me is hearing, that perfectionism is as well a defence against rejection. Thank you Julia for the wonderful video!
@laurenl720
So true, I call myself a recovering people pleaser. I’ve gotten better at listening to my body, but part of me still wants to make everyone happy.
@jbellbird9050
Excellent video which is very applicable for me right now. After my husband passed a year ago, many friends 'disappeared'. So now it's difficult to trust ppl and to open up. It will take time to reach out and make new friends ❤
@AndrewOrloff-s4z
I deal with this everyday. It is tied in fear of trying things because I’ll fail . It is also tied in with OCD to make sure that I don’t screw up . I only let certain friends in , ones I think will not criticize me . The thing I do to get praise , that I feel will get me acceptance is singing . But even then , I feel It has got to come off right or I am unacceptable . My Friends I know care about me , don’t know these feelings I have . I also get hugs for acceptance , to feel safe .
@SusanAllen-q2i
Thank you, Julia! I feel this when I have an idea and present it and it is totally ignored. I have to a lot of self talk and examine my “assumptions” or “stories” I build around the situation. Also, I have to constantly remind myself not to take everything personally. (As per the Four Agreements). But it’s not a “one and done”. I have to do this every time. One day, perhaps I will do this immediately, in the moment, and not go into sensitivity rejection. ❤
@deekayvixen
Whenever I detect a hint of rejection, I immediately see myself out. I’ll strike out potential friends and family. I’ve walked away from a lot of opportunities.
@ephram50
This video is spot on for me. I am surprised on how there is so much wisdom and understanding available on YouTube. I also didn’t connect perfectionism to rejection. I am learning that I am more sensitive than I ever thought. Thanks for the video. I subscribed to your channel.
@tookaysevon
Something about your manner of speaking, your tone and cadence (?), really resonates with one of those "bigger feelers" like myself.
@conedawg1982
I’m convinced I’m struggling with Anhedonia. I can’t feel pleasure or reward in anything. I get positive affirmations, compliments and gifts from people and I feel absolutely nothing. The least little rejection or criticism cuts me deep and can get me to feeling down for a day or weeks sometimes. I’m sure a lot of this comes from going through a narcissistic relationship with my ex wife and other relationships where I was treated poorly and rejected unexpectedly.
@MiliMehta
Please make video on criticism sensitivity
@stephaniee1613
How does my phone read my mind? Suggested videos freak me out, but they not wrong
@CrAZychicke
Thank you for your channel. Yes! I've struggled with this my whole life as someone who is highly sensitive. Makes so much sense, that I feel things more deeply than others... rsd, people pleasing and shame. Trying to be more gentle with myself.
@mynheer1
Most of them. My family has always made fun of me for being too sensitive about everything.
@jamesmurphy3219
Thank you, Julia. I definitely have fallen into this category of rejection sensitivity as an HSP. This was very helpful info.
@chrisdigitalartist
My thoughts and notes on Julia’s YouTube video, 7 Signs Someone Has Rejection Sensitivity (1/24/2025) Julia, this is a GREAT video! I am always learning something new from you. I never knew about Rejection Sensitivity, and I find it very relatable. One of the most valuable lessons I’ve learned from you is that when I discover something about myself, like being a highly sensitive person or having rejection sensitivity, it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with me. The first step is to NOT reject myself because I may be more sensitive in these areas. Now, I understand why I have been so sensitive to rejection. I have this new awareness, and I can show myself compassion. 💞 Also, since I have done so much internal healing work in my life as a Shifter, I can see where I have made progress and where some work still needs to be done. I think for a long time, sign number 5 has held me back. But now, I realize that as long as I start putting myself out there, even if I still face rejection, I will be okay. I am STILL a worthy and valued person. I love and accept myself just as I am. Here are my notes: * Rejection Sensitivity: An intense sense of rejection that leads to sadness, anger lack of acceptance. HSPs are more prone to this. * It can cause you to question your self-worth. 7 Signs: 1. A crisis of confidence - After being shut down, or not get the desirable outcome a person hoped for from others, they question their value and self-worth. 2. Any rejection (even small one, or perception) can bring up an intense emotional reaction - a person may lash out in anger, or go internally reject others. A bigger rejection, like not getting a job or break up can unleash even more intense emotions. 3. Even if someone lets a person down easily or gently, they still go into self-blame or blaming others- "You had a great idea, but I think we are going into a different direction…" can still cause intense emotions and thoughts of unworthiness. 4. If someone gets caught up in people pleasing - Rejection sensitivity is often a driver in people pleasing. They want to be how people want or do what people want even it costs their own happiness, boundaries, preferences or health. If they don't, they fear rejection. 5. People tend to avoid any kind of circumstances that is going to make you vulnerable to rejection in the first place - you avoid putting yourself out there in case you do it wrong and fear being rejected. You fear you don't have what it takes to be the best. Avoid getting close to people so that they won't reject you. 6. A deep drive for perfection - Perfectionism is rooted in anxiety and fear. If a person thinks they do not have everything "right" or "all together" then no one can criticize them or look down on them and ultimately reject them. 7. Someone may go though some or most of their life with a negative filter - they may think that somehow if someone glances at them or give them a look or someone says something neutral and perceive it as rejection. * If we don't let others in, we don't get connection or authentic connection. We don’t' feel loved or accepted. * HARD TRUTH: If you want to stop fearing the rection of others and taking it so hard, then you got to STOP rejection yourself! You have to start loving and liking yourself for who you are!*
@leem5122
All of this touched me very much, i always felt my sensitivity is a big weakness. As a man i didn’t understand why i always felt this way. Thank you for explaining things so clearly, this will help me to find a way to deal with this, so that i can start to love myself. ❤
@stephenblute3120
Spot on......
@theclicker69
Hello Julia. Honestly, too many connected. I think most stem from my low self-esteem. I tend to isolate myself all too often and that's when the negative thoughts run wild in my head.
@Becca-k4h