Many friendships are controversial because they exist outside of artificial economies. This is why they are so great. Friendship is a form of rebellion, and will be the unexpected winner, in a long race of productivity. She used to tease me for having friends. Until she realized that she was the one who โliberatedโ herself into to workforce like an Ox. Believing in the promises of the marketplace.
This happens cos of her solipsism. This is why you must always prioritize your purpose first and she'd always be your fourth or fifth priority. Your friends can understand your struggles cos you all have the burden of performance. She doesn't have the same burden as you. Even if you make her work for the relationship. She can only have competition anxiety not as much burden of performance as you. Stay safe
Real bonds and friendships make your life a lot better, so I stopped waiting for others to reach out and started making the first step. Reading Power of Assertiveness: Unlock Your Potential on Mindbloomery really helped me to be more open and I realized that vulnerability isn't weakness.
This reminds me of a poor Asian elephant who recently got bought & rescued by a sanctuary who is 55 years old & had to work 7 days a week pulling logs for loggers. Chained, poked & prodded into submission, no elephant relationships & malnourished both physically & every other way. Heartbreaking.
It's such a paradox because the positive energy that permeates a man's life when he has those masculine relationships will benefit all other areas in measurable ways. What you say is true and it really sucks that men have to fight this battle when we do so much for everyone else
Theodore (The Unabomber) described this in his manifesto, that we're conditioned to be more loyal to the system rather than to our family or friends. To be loyal to family above the system is called "Nepotism". We literally need to love the "Big brother" more than our close ones๐ ๐ This is so unnatural tho, we are losing our local connections and relationships.
Indirectly it exactly benefits all those other groups you mentioned. Clearly
Brotherhood is one of the most important things in a man in life
Most of the time, I think it is just having to move after marriage and there is no longer a social network of friends. Hard to build friendships when you are busy and all your male counterparts are equally as busy.
Male bonds/friendships definitely benefit their community and can lead to better networking/clients for their businesses. Real men challenge each other to be better and have a code of conduct, hold each other to a high standard, this is better for society. A man with healthy friendships will also be happier and more motivated, which leads to him being a better husband and father. Rather than building resentment for his annoying wife who won't stop nagging him.
โJust spilling your purse on the tableโ ๐๐๐
Wow. That's a horrible situation. Ladies: encourage your men to keep up their male friendships.
Then there are the men who have no friends except loose acquaintances with her friends, because our culture prioritizes productivity over community. But we all need community in the same way we need air and water. Work and productivity is good, but we have to have non transactional relationships and community too. You won't cherish you Validation and status and ego on your death bed. Youll wish that you worked less.
Saint Peter only asked what he gets in return for leaving everything behind, after he had already done that. He did not count the sacrifice before doing anything. Jesus said:"Come, from now on you will catch men, not fish." And he left his nets.
Man, ... Ruthless take. I love my friends. My friends love my friends. My community love my friends. My girlfriend loves my friends. I don't get where all this... tension... is coming from. Don't people understand how important friends are?
Our lives seem to constantly ably suck because we give in to their pressures. Like our country is just an oligarchy that leverages and takes advantage of our Lonley we are. Relationships with god are just relationships with your alienated self that society alienates you from. Ugh. โTo be of good use to other thingsโ. Iโm not even pure avoidant and this whole thing just seems like a loosing battle.
It's nice to have a friend to give the eulogy at your funeral. Most funeral homes don't ask the widow to do it. They presume you're too broken up to handle giving a speech. I know I was grateful for their attitude. It IS important for a guy to have at least ONE really close friend, if for nothing else......THAT.
Moral of the story is dont run after relationship ๐๐๐๐
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